The 11:15am text reads, “Sorry to bring you bad news but this is how we are starting our holiday week off. A fractured finger from an altercation snatching a pillow from me after arguing. Please pray, we are not in a good place.”
My response. “All one of you had to do was, let go.”
A simple task lost in the emotion of anger mixed with self desire leads to a broken bone, tears, fear and a trip to the immediate care center. Two people refusing to let go. One person could have disarmed the entire battle with the simple act of opening their hand.
My response continues. “Our Lord opened his hands when he spread his arms on the cross and allowed the soldiers to nail him to the cross. An open hand, a hand that releases control and lets desire go is an inviting hand. A hand that releases out of love, is a hand providing the opportunity for healing and peace.”
A hand closed on an object, fighting for position with another hand is a fist clenched in frustration, fear, anger and aggression. A fist clenched in anger invites only another fist. A fist is an invitation to war. A war that continues on and on.
An open hand is a invitation to peace. Open hands can join together to bring comfort, assurance and love.
Our Lord calls us to let go of our desires that drive us to pain or drive us to bring pain into someone else’s life. Jesus says, “Come, follow me.” (Matthew 4:189) He says again, “If anyone would after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” (Luke 9:23)
As a Christian, we are called to follow Jesus Christ and obey his teachings first and first always. I know it is a fight, but the fight must be fought within ourselves. It is in our own corrupted hearts where we need to win the battle long before we take the battle to the rest of the world.
All one of them had to do was, let go. Let go of a pillow. Let go of a selfish desire. Let go of anger. Let go of frustration. Let go of pride. Letting go by consciously opening a hand because the Lord had opened his hand to us and all of the complex emotions bound together in that one moment would have been washed away.
Jesus says, “For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.” (Luke 9:24)
Please, when given the opportunity to hold onto the fight or open up and let go, let go. Resist the desire to save whatever piece of a foolish life (in this case it was anger disguised as a pillow) you are trying to save. Give up, lose the fight, let go of your pillow and save the life that matters. Your life, your children’s life, your spouse’s life, your family’s life.